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Dappy
19-03-11, 09:14 AM
I was reading this blog (http://bit.ly/hmGSqN).

And it got me thinking 'have I ever done that', from what I can recall I have ooo'd and aaaahhh'd over a strangers newborn but never touched.

Is this women in the blog slightly over reacting or is she damn right?

Is it rude to touch someone elses newborn? Have you had someone do it to you, and how did it make you feel? Have you ever done it, if so what made you do it?

Thoughts...

Mama
19-03-11, 09:26 AM
I would never ever do this!

I always feel odd when friends ask me if I want to hold their new baby, as personally I don't like "passing" a new baby around due to germs !

I'm abit over protective and lioness-y when ive had a new baby !

Some people think I'm gaga I reckon but it's just the way I am .

Why would you think it's ok to touch a strangers baby ? Odd !

cscmadwife
19-03-11, 09:33 AM
As a midwife, or course I ave. And a held and bottlefed my niece's baby, as she wanted to go have a fag :-(

I've also had skin2skin with a friend's baby when she had to go for tests, as she had been cold, and her mum asked me to.

Dappy
19-03-11, 09:36 AM
If you've been asked then it's a different as you've been given permission. With the skin to skin that's great of you to step in and give something which will benefit the baby that mum unfortunately couldn't give due to tests.

I think the women in the blog post is referring more too 'strangers in the street', have you ever had the little old dear come up to you and say 'oooo he's a cutie' (que squeezing the cheeks) << is this out of line? Should she of asked? Should she of known better than to touch?

Momiji
19-03-11, 10:15 AM
I have had this happen. When I had DD1, we had gone into town and she started to cry on the bus. A lady sat across from us leant over and stroked her face. I didn't say anything but moved round in my seat away from her. It made me very uncomfortable but I felt unable to tell her that.

Momiji
19-03-11, 10:16 AM
I also hated it while I was pregnant, people coming over and touching my bump without asking.

Dappy
19-03-11, 10:18 AM
Momiji can you recall what made you feel uncomfortable, I can imagine the women was only trying to be nice and comforting.

I can also imagine us not being so protective maybe with a older child and maybe even start chatting with said stranger etc.

Is it because they are newborns, precious that we become very protective over them and this behaviour from strangers just doesn't sit right?

Dappy
19-03-11, 10:19 AM
I agree regarding the bump as that's my body.. I don't like many people touching me, let alone strangers.

cscmadwife
19-03-11, 10:23 AM
Oh yes, hate that, esp when they are full of cold, or breathing smoke all over my baby!

Momiji
19-03-11, 10:39 AM
I think it was that she was a stranger. And a little bit of the fact that I was a young mum. I was 18 but looked a lot younger, with a hungry newborn and a toddler in tow.